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Many people believe that it is critical to share similar, if not identical, beliefs and values with someone with whom they have a relationship. While this may seem preferable, it is far from mandatory. Individuals from extremely diverse backgrounds have learned to overlook their differences and live harmonious, loving lives together. I've seen people from opposite ends of the spectrum economically and politically that ended up in happy, lasting marriages. I've seen couples from different ethnic groups merge into harmonious relationships, and I¡¯ve seen people from different religions come together for a strong, lasting bond. Furthermore, many good friends have little in common except a warm loving feeling of respect and rapport. That¡¯ the only essential thing.
 
People who enjoy the best relationships with others, who live life with the least frustration regarding their differences, have learned that differences are to be expected, a fact of life. This understanding must go beyond a mere intellectual ¡®I know we¡¯re all different.¡¯ You must truly own this idea and incorporate it into your daily life.
 
The way I see it, we have only two realistic choices. We can the principle of separate realities and remain frustrated and angry over the fact that no one seems to conform to our way of thinking, or we can strive to understand what in Eastern philosophy is called ¡®The way of things.¡¯ Separate realities is the way things really are. Everyone is unique and has different gifts to offer. When we look for these gifts we will surely find them ¡ª and in doing so, we will open the door to a world of personal growth. * rapport: Ä£¹ÐÇÑ(°ø°¨ÀûÀÎ) °ü°è
 
46. À§ ±ÛÀÇ Á¦¸ñÀ¸·Î °¡Àå ÀûÀýÇÑ °ÍÀº?
¨ç Facing Challenges in Life        ¨è Leading an Intellectual Life
¨é Finding Meaning in Friendship  ¨ê Accepting Differences in Others
¨ë Enriching Life through Meditation
 
47. À§ ±ÛÀÇ ºóÄ­¿¡ µé¾î°¥ ¸»·Î °¡Àå ÀûÀýÇÑ °ÍÀº?
¨ç resist ¨è establish ¨é master ¨ê grasp ¨ë overestimate
 
1. ³»¿ëÇ®ÀÌ
46¹ø, »ç¶÷µé °£ÀÇ Â÷À̸¦ ÀÎÁ¤ÇÏ°í ¹Þ¾ÆµéÀÌ´Â °ÍÀÌ ¹Ù¶÷Á÷ÇÏ´Ù´Â ¿äÁöÀÇ ±ÛÀÌ´Ù. µû¶ó¼­ ¨ê ¡®´Ù¸¥ »ç¶÷µéÀÌ °¡Áö°í ÀÖ´Â Â÷ÀÌÁ¡À» ÀÎÁ¤Çϱ⡯°¡ ÀÌ ±ÛÀÇ Á¦¸ñÀ¸·Î °¡Àå ÀûÀýÇÔ. 47¹ø. »ç¶÷µé °£ÀÇ Â÷ÀÌ¿¡ ´ëÇØ Çö½ÇÀûÀ¸·Î ¿ì¸®°¡ ¼±ÅÃÇÒ ¼ö ÀÖ´Â µÎ °¡Áö¸¦ ¾ð±ÞÇÏ°í Àִµ¥, ÈÄÀÚ°¡ Â÷À̸¦ ÀÎÁ¤ÇÏ´Â ³»¿ëÀ̹ǷÎ, ºóÄ­¿¡´Â Â÷À̸¦ ÀÎÁ¤ÇÏÁö ¾Ê´Â´Ù´Â ¶æÀÇ µ¿»ç°¡ µé¾î°¡¾ß ¿Ç´Ù. µû¶ó¼­ resist°¡ °¡Àå ÀûÀýÇÔ.
 
2. ±¸¹®Çؼ³
¨ç [Many people believe that it is critical to share similar, (if not identical), beliefs and values with someone with whom they have a relationship]
¡Øit °¡ÁÖ¾î/ to share~ ÁøÁÖ¾î ¡Øsharewith Ⓑ: Ⓐ¸¦ Ⓑ¿Í °øÀ¯ÇÏ´Ù(³ªµÎ´Ù) ¡Øif not identical: ¶È°°Áö´Â ¾Ê´õ¶óµµ ¡æ if (beliefs and values are) not identical ¡æ if=though ¡Ø have a relationship with ~¿Í °ü°è¸¦ ¸Î´Ù. ¡æ ¸¹Àº »ç¶÷µéÀº ±×µéÀÌ °ü°è¸¦ ¸Î°í ÀÖ´Â »ç¶÷°ú ¶È°°Áö´Â ¾Ê´õ¶óµµ, ºñ½ÁÇÑ ½Å³ä°ú °¡Ä¡°üÀ» °øÀ¯ÇÏ´Â °ÍÀÌ Áß¿äÇÏ´Ù°í »ý°¢ÇÑ´Ù.
 
¨è [While this may seem preferable, it is far from mandatory. Individuals from extremely diverse backgrounds have learned to overlook their differences and live harmonious, loving lives together. I've seen people (from opposite ends of the spectrum economically and politically) (that ended up in happy, lasting marriages.)]
 
¡Øpreferable ¹Ù¶÷Á÷ÇÑ ¡æ seem + Çü¿ë»ç ¡Ø far from :~°ú °Å¸®°¡ ¸Õ, °áÄÚ ~ÀÌ ¾Æ´Ñ. ¡Øextremely diverse backgrounds:¿ÏÀüÈ÷ ´Ù¸¥ ¹è°æ ¡Ø live´Â µ¿Á¾¸ñÀû¾î(life)¸¦ ¸ñÀû¾î·Î ÃëÇϸé Ÿµ¿»ç°¡ µÊ. ¡Øfrom opposite ends of the spectrum: (Àüü¹üÀ§Áß) ¹Ý´ëÀÇ ¾ç ³¡ ÁöÁ¡¿¡ ÀÖ´Â ¡Øended up °á±¹~µÇ´Ù(result in)   ¡æ ÀÌ°ÍÀÌ ¹Ù¶÷Á÷ÇÒÁö´Â ¸ð¸£Áö¸¸, ±×°ÍÀº °­Á¦ÀûÀÎ °ÍÀº ¾Æ´Ï´Ù. ¿ÏÀüÈ÷ ´Ù¸¥ ¹è°æÀ» °¡Áø °³ÀεéÀÌ ±×µéÀÇ Â÷À̸¦ ³Ê±×·´°Ô º¸°í Á¶È­·Ó°í »ç¶ûÇÏ´Â »îÀ» ÇÔ²² ´©¸®´Â °ÍÀ» ¹è¿ü´Ù. ³ª´Â °æÁ¦ÀûÀ¸·Î ±×¸®°í Á¤Ä¡ÀûÀ¸·Î ¹Ý´ëÀÇ ¾ç ³¡ ÁöÁ¡¿¡ ÀÖ´Â »ç¶÷µéÀÌ ÇູÇÏ°í Áö¼ÓÀûÀÎ °áÈ¥ »ýÈ°À» ÇÏ´Â °ÍÀ» º¸¾Æ¿Ô´Ù.
 
¨é [I've seen couples (from different ethnic groups) merge into harmonious relationships, and I¡¯ve seen people (from different religions) come together for a strong, lasting bond. Furthermore, many good friends have little in common except a warm loving feeling of respect and rapport. That¡¯ the only essential thing.]
 
¡ØÁö°¢µ¿»ç(seen)+¸ñÀû¾î(couples~)+µ¿»ç¿øÇü(merge~) ¡ØÁö°¢µ¿»ç(seen)+¸ñÀû¾î(couples~)+µ¿»ç¿øÇü(come~) ¡Øhave ~ in common: ~°øÅëÁ¡ÀÌ ÀÖ´Ù.  ¡æ³ª´Â ´Ù¸¥ ÀÎÁ¾ Áý´Ü Ãâ½ÅÀÇ ºÎºÎµéÀÌ Á¶È­·Î¿î °ü°è·Î ÇÔ²² »ç´Â °ÍÀ» º¸¾Æ¿ÔÀ¸¸ç, ¼­·Î ´Ù¸¥ Á¾±³¸¦ °¡Áø »ç¶÷µéÀÌ °­ÇÏ°í Áö¼ÓÀûÀÎ À¯´ë°ü°è·Î ¹¶Ä¡´Â °ÍÀ» º¸¾Æ¿Ô´Ù. °Ô´Ù°¡, ¸¹Àº ÁÁÀº Ä£±¸µéÀÌ Á¸°æ°ú Ä£¹ÐÇÑ °ü°èÀÇ µû¶æÇÑ »ç¶ûÇÏ´Â °¨Á¤À» »©°í´Â °øÅëÀûÀÎ °ÍÀÌ °ÅÀÇ ¾ø´Ù. ±×°ÍÀÌ À¯ÀÏÇÑ ÇʼöÀûÀÎ °ÍÀÌ´Ù.
 
¨ê [People who enjoy the best relationships with others, who live life with the least frustration regarding their differences, have learned that differences are to be expected, (which is) a fact of life. This understanding must go beyond a mere intellectual ¡®I know we¡¯re all different.¡¯ You must truly own this idea and incorporate it into your daily life.] ¡Øgo beyond:~À» ÃÊ¿ùÇÏ´Ù
¡æ ´Ù¸¥ »ç¶÷µé°ú ÃÖ°íÀÇ °ü°è¸¦ À¯ÁöÇϸç, Â÷ÀÌÁ¡¿¡ ´ëÇؼ­ ÁÂÀý°¨ÀÌ °ÅÀÇ ¾øÀÌ »ç´Â »ç¶÷µéÀº Â÷ÀÌ´Â »îÀÇ »ç½Ç·Î¼­ ¿¹»óµÈ´Ù´Â °ÍÀ» ¹è¿ü´Ù. ÀÌ·¯ÇÑ ÀÌÇØ´Â ´Ü¼øÈ÷ ÁöÀûÀ¸·Î ¡°¿ì¸®°¡ ¸ðµÎ ´Ù¸£´Ù´Â °ÍÀ» ³ª´Â ¾Ë°í ÀÖ´Ù¡±¶ó°í ÇÏ´Â °ÍÀ» ³Ñ¾î¼­¾ß ÇÑ´Ù. ´ç½ÅÀº ÁøÁ¤À¸·Î ÀÌ °³³äÀ» ¼ÒÀ¯ÇÏ°í, ´ç½ÅÀÇ ÀÏ»ó»ýÈ°¿¡ ±×°ÍÀ» Â¥ ³Ö¾î¾ß ÇÑ´Ù.
 
¨ë [The way I see it, we have only two realistic choices. We can the principle of separate realities and remain frustrated and angry over the fact that no one seems to conform to our way of thinking, or we can strive to understand what (in Eastern philosophy) is called ¡®The way of things.¡¯ ]    ¡Ø The way I see it = As I see it: ³»°¡ º¸±â¿¡. ¡Øseparate realities: °³º°¼º ¡Ø remain frustrated and angry: ÁÂÀýÇÏ°í ºÐ³ëÇÏ´Ù ¡Øover the fact that~: ~ÇÑ »ç½Ç¿¡ ´ëÇØ(¿©±â¼­ thatÀº µ¿°ÝÀý) ¡Ø what is called ¡®The way of things¡¯ : ¡°»ç¹°ÀÇ ¹æ½Ä¡±À̶ó°í ºÒ¸®´Â °Í.
 
¡æ ³»°¡ ±×°ÍÀ» ¹Ù¶óº¸´Â ¹æ½Ä¿¡¼­ º¸¾Æ, ¿ì¸®´Â µÎ °¡Áö Çö½ÇÀûÀÎ ¼±Åø¸À» °¡Áö°í ÀÖ´Ù. ¿ì¸®´Â °³º°¼ºÀÇ ¿ø¸®¿¡ ÀúÇ×ÇÏ°í ¾î´À ´©±¸µµ ¿ì¸®ÀÇ »ç°í¹æ½Ä¿¡ µû¸£Áö ¾Ê´Â °Íó·³ º¸ÀÌ´Â »ç½Ç¿¡ °è¼Ó ½Ç¸ÁÇÏ°í ºÐ³ëÇÒ ¼ö ÀÖ´Ù. ȤÀº ¿ì¸®´Â µ¿¾ç öÇп¡ ¼­ ¡°»ç¹°ÀÇ ¹æ½Ä¡±À̶ó°í ºÒ¸®´Â °ÍÀ» ÀÌÇØÇÏ·Á°í ³ë·ÂÇÒ ¼ö ÀÖ´Ù.
 
¨ì [Separate realities is the way things really are. Everyone is unique and has different gifts to offer. When we look for these gifts we will surely find them ¡ª and in doing so, we will open the door to a world of personal growth]
¡Ø the way things (that) really are: »ç¹°ÀÇ ½ÇÁ¦ ÇöÀç¸ð½À(»óȲ) ¡Øa world of personal growth: °³ÀÎÀûÀÎ ¼ºÀåÀÇ ¼¼°è ¡æ °³º°¼ºÀº »ç¹°µéÀÌ ½ÇÁ¦·Î Á¸ÀçÇÏ´Â ¹æ½ÄÀÌ´Ù. ¸ðµç »ç¶÷Àº µ¶Æ¯Çϸç, Á¦°øÇÒ ¼ö ÀÖ´Â °¢±â ´Ù¸¥ Àç´ÉÀÌ ÀÖ´Ù. ¿ì¸®°¡ ÀÌ·¯ÇÑ Àç´ÉµéÀ» ãÀ» ¶§, ¿ì¸®´Â ºÐ¸íÈ÷ ±×°ÍµéÀ» ãÀ» °ÍÀÌ´Ù. ±×¸®°í ±×·¸°Ô ÇÔÀ¸·Î½á, ¿ì¸®´Â °³ÀÎÀûÀÎ ¼ºÀåÀÇ ¼¼°è·Î °¡´Â ¹®À» ¿­°Ô µÉ °ÍÀÌ´Ù.
 
3. ´Ü¾îÁ¤¸®
*identical ¶È°°Àº *identical µ¿ÀÏÇÑ, ¶È°°Àº *preferable ¹Ù¶÷Á÷ÇÑ *mandatory °­Á¦ÀûÀÎ, Àǹ«ÀûÀÎ, ¸í·ÉÀÇ *diverse ´Ù¸¥, ´Ù¾çÇÑ *overlook ³»·Áº¸´Ù, °£°úÇÏ´Ù, ³Ê±×·´°Ô ºÁÁÖ´Ù *spectrum Àüü¹üÀ§, ºÐ±¤ *bond À¯´ë°ü°è *intellectual ÁöÀûÀÎ *ethnic ÀÎÁ¾ÀÇ, ¹ÎÁ·ÀÇ *merge ÇÕº´ÇÏ´Ù, À¶ÇÕÇÏ´Ù *frustration ÁÂÀý *incorporate È¥ÇÕÇÏ´Ù, ¼¯´Ù *separate realities °³º°¼º *incorporate ¼¯´Ù, È¥ÇÕÇÏ´Ù *conform to ¢¦¿¡ µû¸£´Ù, ¼øÀÀÇÏ´Ù * rapport: Ä£¹ÐÇÑ(°ø°¨ÀûÀÎ) °ü°è
 
Âü°í: *with regard to = with respect to = as concerns = as respects = as regards = concerning = regarding =respecting = as to = about: ~¿¡ °üÇÏ¿©, ~¿¡ ´ëÇÏ¿© *regardless of = without regard to = irrespective of:~¿Í »ó°ü¾øÀÌ¡ç ÇÔ²² ¿Ü¿ö µÎ¼¼¿ä^^
 
4. Àü¹®Çؼ®
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