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In order to successfully release himself from the control of his parents, a child must be secure in his parents¡¯ power, as represented by their loving authority. The more effectively they communicate that authority, the more secure the child feels, and the better able he is to move away from them toward a life of his own. During this lengthy process, whenever he feels threatened, he turns back toward the safety of his parents¡¯ love and authority. In other words, it is impossible for a child to successfully release himself unless he knows exactly where his parents stand, both literally and figuratively. That requires, of course, that his parents know where they themselves stand. If they don¡¯'t know where they stand ¡ª if, in other words, they are insecure in their authority ¡ª they cannot communicate security to their child, and he cannot move successfully away from them. Under the circumstances, he will become clingy, or disobedient, or both.
¨ç necessity of parental intervention in ensuring children¡¯s safety.
¨è roles of parental authority in children¡¯ social skills development.
¨é consequences of offering parental supervision for children¡¯s independence.
¨ê requirements for preventing children from being disobedient to their parents.
¨ë importance of communicating parental authority to children for their independence.
1. ³»¿ëÇ®ÀÌ
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¨ç [In order to successfully release himself from the control of his parents, a child must be secure in his parents¡¯ power, as (being) represented by their loving authority.] ¡ØIn order to:~Çϱâ À§ÇÏ¿©(so as to, with a view to ~ing, for the purpose of, so that~may) ¡Ørelease A from B:B·ÎºÎÅÍ A¸¦ Çعæ½ÃÅ°´Ù. ¡Øsecure:¾ÈÀüÇÑ, ¾ÈÀüÇÏ°ÔÇÏ´Ù.¡êinsecure:ÀÚ½ÅÀÌ ¾ø´Â, ºÒ¾ÈÁ¤ÇÑ ¡Øhis parents¡¯ power:ºÎ¸ð´ÔÀÇ ¿µÇâ·Â ¡Øhis parents¡¯ power = as (being) represented by their loving authority:ºÎ¸ð´ÔÀÇ ¾ÖÁ¤ ¾î¸° »ç¶ûÀ¸·Î ³ªÅ¸³ª´Â ¢ÑºÎ¸ðÀÇ ÅëÁ¦·ÎºÎÅÍ ½º½º·Î¸¦ ¼º°ø¸®¿¡ Çعæ½ÃÅ°·Á¸é ¾ÆÀÌ´Â ºÎ¸ðÀÇ ¾ÖÁ¤ ¾î¸° ±ÇÀ§·Î ³ªÅ¸³ª´Â ºÎ¸ðÀÇ ¿µÇâ·Â ¾È¿¡¼ ¾ÈÀüÇؾ߸¸ ÇÑ´Ù.
¨è [The more effectively they communicate that authority, the more secure the child feels, and the better able he is to move away from them toward a life of his own.] ¡Øthe ºñ±³±Þ, the ºñ±³±Þ:~Çϸé ÇÒ¼ö·Ï ´õ¿í ~ÇÏ´Ù. ¡Øthat authority:±× ±ÇÀ§(that:Áö½ÃÇü¿ë»ç) ¡Øtoward a life of his own:ÀÚ½ÅÀÇ »îÀ» ÇâÇØ ¢ÑºÎ¸ð°¡ ±× ±ÇÀ§¸¦ È¿°úÀûÀ¸·Î Àü´ÞÇϸé ÇÒ¼ö·Ï ¾ÆÀÌ´Â ´õ¿í ¾È½ÉÇÏ¸ç ±× ÀÚ½ÅÀÇ »îÀ» ÇâÇØ ºÎ¸ð·ÎºÎÅÍ Á» ´õ Àß ¶°³ª°¥ ¼ö ÀÖ´Ù.
¨é [During this lengthy process, whenever he feels threatened, he turns back toward the safety of his parents¡¯ love and authority.] ¡Øthis lengthy process:ÀÌ ±ä °úÁ¤ ¡Øwhenever:~ÇÒ¶§¸¶´Ù(every time) ¡Øfeels threatened:À§ÇùÀ» ´À³¢´Ù.(threaten:Çù¹ÚÇÏ´Ù, À§ÇùÇÏ´Ù.) ¡Øturn back:µÇµ¹¾Æ ¿À´Ù. ¡Øtoward the safety of his parents¡¯ love and authority:ºÎ¸ð´ÔÀÇ »ç¶û°ú ±ÇÀ§¶ó´Â ¾ÈÀüÇÑ °÷À¸·Î ¢ÑÀÌ·¯ÇÑ ±ä °úÁ¤ µ¿¾È, À§ÇùÀ» ´À³¥ ¶§¸¶´Ù, ¾ÆÀÌ´Â ºÎ¸ðÀÇ »ç¶û°ú ±ÇÀ§¶ó´Â ¾ÈÀüÇÑ °÷À¸·Î µÇµ¹¾Æ¿Â´Ù.
¨ê [In other words, it is impossible for a child to successfully release himself unless he knows exactly where his parents stand, both literally and figuratively. That requires, of course, that his parents know where they themselves stand.] ¡ØIn other words:´Ù½Ã ¸»Çϸé(namely) ¡Øit is impossible for a child to~:¾ÆÀÌ°¡ ~ÇÏ´Â °ÍÀº ºÒ°¡´É ÇÏ´Ù.(it:°¡ÁÖ¾î, for~:Àǹ̻óÀÇ ÁÖ¾î, to~:ÁøÁÖ¾î) ¡Øunless he knows exactly where his parents stand: ±×ÀÇ ºÎ¸ð´ÔÀÌ Á¤È®ÇÏ°Ô ¾îµð¿¡ (¼)ÀÖ´ÂÁö ¾ËÁö ¸øÇÑ´Ù¸é(°£Á¢Àǹ®¹®: Àǹ®»ç+ÁÖ¾î+µ¿»ç) ¡Øunless:¸¸¾à~ÇÏÁö ¾Ê´Â´Ù¸é ¡Øboth A and B: A¿Í BµÑ ´Ù ¡Øliterally:¹®ÀÚ ±×´ë·Î ¡Ø figuratively:ºñÀ¯ÀûÀ¸·Î ¡ØThat requires, of course, that~:¹°·Ð ±×°ÍÀº ~À» ÇÊ¿ä·Î ÇÑ´Ù. ¢Ñ´Ù½Ã ¸»Çؼ, ¾ÆÀÌ°¡ ¸» ±×´ë·Î ¶Ç ºñÀ¯ÀûÀ¸·Î ºÎ¸ð°¡ Á¤È®ÇÏ°Ô ¾îµð¿¡ ¡®ÀÖ´ÂÁö¡¯ ¾ËÁö ¸øÇÑ´Ù¸é ±× ¾ÆÀÌ°¡ ¼º°ø¸®¿¡ ½º½º·Î¸¦ Çعæ½ÃÅ°´Â °ÍÀº ºÒ°¡´ÉÇÏ´Ù. ¹°·Ð ±×°ÍÀº ±×ÀÇ ºÎ¸ð ½º½º·Îµµ ÀÚ½ÅÀÇ À§Ä¡¸¦ ¾Æ´Â °ÍÀ» ÇÊ¿ä·Î ÇÑ´Ù.
¨ë [If they don¡¯'t know where they stand ¡ª if, in other words, they are insecure in their authority ¡ª they cannot communicate security to their child, and he cannot move successfully away from them.] ¡ØIf they don¡¯'t know where they stand:¸¸ÀÏ ±×µéÀÌ(ºÎ¸ð)°¡ ÀÚ½ÅÀÇ À§Ä¡¸¦ ¸ð¸¥´Ù¸é. ¡Øin other words:´Ù½Ã ¸»Çϸé, Áï(namely) ¡Øif (in other words) they are insecure in their authority:(´Ù½Ã ¸»Çؼ) ±×µéÀÌ ÀÚ½ÅÀÇ ±ÇÀ§¿¡ ´ëÇØ ºÒ¾ÈÀü ÇÏ´Ù¸é(ÀÚ½ÅÀÌ ¾ø´Ù¸é) ¡Øcommunicate:ÀÇ»ç¼ÒÅëÇÏ´Ù, Àü´ÞÇÏ´Ù. ¢Ñ¸¸ÀÏ ¡®ºÎ¸ð¡¯°¡ ÀÚ½ÅÀÇ À§Ä¡¸¦ ¸ð¸¥´Ù¸é, ´Ù½Ã ¸»Çؼ ÀÚ½ÅÀÇ ±ÇÀ§¿¡ ´ëÇØ ÀÚ½ÅÀÌ ¾ø´Ù¸é, ±×µéÀº Àڱ⠾ÆÀÌ¿¡°Ô ¾ÈÀüÇÔÀ» Àü´ÞÇØÁÙ ¼ö ¾ø°í ¾ÆÀÌ´Â ºÎ¸ð·ÎºÎÅÍ ¼º°øÀûÀ¸·Î ¶°³ª°¥ ¼ö ¾ø´Ù.
¨ì [Under the circumstances, he will become clingy, or disobedient, or both.] ¡Øcircumstances:»óȲ, ȯ°æ ¡Øclingy:¸Å´Þ¸®´Â, µé·¯ºÙ´Â¡æ¨âcling: ´Þ¶óºÙ´Ù. ¸Å´Þ¸®´Ù. ¡Øbecome(get,grow) + Çü¿ë»ç:~ÇÏ°Ô µÇ´Ù. ¡Øbecome clingy:¸Å´Þ¸®´Ù. ¡Ødisobedient °Å¿ªÇÏ´Â, ¹ÝÇ×ÇÏ´Â ¢ÑÀÌ·± »óÅ¿¡¼´Â, ¾ÆÀÌ´Â (ºÎ¸ð¿¡°Ô) ¸Å´Þ¸®°Å³ª °Å¿ªÇÏ°Ô µÇ°í, ȤÀº µÎ °¡Áö ¸ðµÎ¸¦ ÇÏ°Ô µÈ´Ù.
3. ´Ü¾îÁ¤¸®
*release:Ç®¾î³õ´Ù. ÇعæÇÏ´Ù.*represent:Ç¥ÇöÇÏ´Ù, ³ªÅ¸³»´Ù *lengthy:±ä *threatened:À§Çù´çÇÑ(¡æ¨âthreaten:À§ÇùÇÏ´Ù.) *literally:¸»[¹®ÀÚ] ±×´ë·Î cf)literature:¹®ÇÐ, literary:¹®ÇÐÀÇ, literate:ÀÐ°í ¾µ¼ö ÀÖ´Â, illiterate:ÀÐ°í ¾µ¼ö ¾ø´Â, ¹®¸ÍÀÇ *figuratively:ºñÀ¯[»ó¡]ÀûÀ¸·Î *secure:¾ÈÀüÇÑ, ¾ÈÀüÇÏ°ÔÇÏ´Ù. *insecure:ÀÚ½ÅÀÌ ¾ø´Â, ºÒ¾ÈÁ¤ÇÑ *clingy:¸Å´Þ¸®´Â, µé·¯ºÙ´Â¡æ¨âcling: ´Þ¶óºÙ´Ù. ¸Å´Þ¸®´Ù. *disobedient °Å¿ªÇÏ´Â, ¹ÝÇ×ÇÏ´Â *necessity:Çʿ伺 *intervention:°£¼· * authority:±ÇÀ§, ±ÇÀ§ÀÚ *supervision:°ü¸®, °¨µ¶ *prevent(keep, prohibit, hinder) A from B:A°¡ BÇÏ´Â °ÍÀ» ¸·´Ù.
4. Àü¹®Çؼ®
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